it only took me several decades and learning from many others (whom I have determined to be severely dysfunctional) that....
the less you say and the more you ask, the smarter you look.
conversely, if you spew out words and laugh at your own jokes in rapid fire manner, you look like an idiot.
met both kinds.
enter your own observations about life, you never stop learning.
Unfortunately, you never stop forgetting, either.